It amused me when another American guy friend made similar comments after he left Beijing.
He can no longer date women as beautiful as those in China, but when he was there, complained that all the Chinese women he dated were hot but stupid, considering their level of English or cultural clashes.
Multiple articles and studies discuss how cultural stereotypes of Asian men may make them less attractive to women of all races, including Asians. On another website, one Asian male expresses: “It’s definitely harder for an Asian male to date a white female than for Asian females to date white males.
In the book Freakonomics, one study showed that single Asians (male) had to make 7,000 more annually to receive the same response rate as White men on online dating sites. Asian males are not portrayed as masculine, whereas Asian females are stereotyped as submissive, exotic.” What gives?!
I will say that while living on the mainland US, people were rather predictable with their ignorant comments. As Japan is a very polite and considerate culture, my husband and I mostly went about our daily life with relatively few negative reactions — save for the occasional stares from older people or children on the subway.
Some are completely outlandish and some are, well, a little more spot on. Census Bureau, 40% of Asian females will marry a non-Asian male, whereas 20% of Asian males will marry a non-Asian female. In fact, there’s even a website which acts as a forum for asian men reclaiming their “asianalitiy” – and they are pissed that their potential asian wives are shacking up with non-asians.One acquaintance told me in wonderment that Chinese women are great in the bedroom – as if I wasn't one – to being casually asked if I’d be interested in a guy “who has been with Chinese girls and likes it”.I’ve been left puzzled by the insensitivity, and the lack of awareness that such comments may cause offence.And because of this, sometimes, there is some truth to the cultural differences of people raised with diverse upbringings. When the dinner cheque arrives at the table, the Asian guy will swoop in like a properly trained ninja and attack the dinner cheque before you can even do that “reach” for your wallet. When it comes to alcohol consumption, according to research, the ‘Asian Flush’ occurs due to a deficiency in an enzyme called aldehyde dehydrogenase, which is part of a vital process that digests alcohol.So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married.